Mis-interpreting silence is a common communicative problem within western-influenced as well as American cultures. If the silence can be embraced for offering an extra flexibility of oral communication, such as the ability to cancel mistaken language in the middle of using it or the ability and the possibility to rethink ideas as they are being spoken and either choose to continue them or opt for an early ejection. Stutterer silence can be used in the middle of conversations for impromptu om mani padme om as well as a moment to contemplate metaphysical serenities such as the cosmic void or a flower or animal in the local area. All of such options for using silence are preferable over blaming the stutterer, taking it personally or deciding that the silence’s origin is a problem that must be fixed.
What I think of as “warm silence” is a moment of togetherness in quietness where the rush is temporarily (for a finite number of seconds) given up and conversation participants can enjoy the lack of stimuli or the lack of social things to concentrate on and give their concentration to outside sounds that slowly increase anxiety through the demand that they be ignored. Warm Silence is a powerful tool for mediating gaps---instead seeing the voids as poetic swishing of the stage cues as if in a theater performance. The void can be a moment of wholeness as well as non-fragmentation. Quietness can be a wild moment of love to the tired faculties of the senses and the social and the soul. As proud stutterers, we aim to advertise our quietness as an attractive quality. We offer you unexpected moments to breathe. By claiming warm silence as an embodied power that stutterers have we can derail stigmatic narratives that rest on compulsive labor rules and demanding social expectations.